I was walking through Walmart today and looking at all the Valentines Day paraphernalia on sale for over 50% off and was shocked at the variety to choose from. The entire center row was filled with cute cards, chocolates, gift baskets, balloons, bears, an every other “symbol” of romance. I’d be lying if I didn’t admit to contemplating returning later and stocking up for next year.
Walmart, Target, and all the rest are desperately trying to get rid of all their over-stock material. They’ll put things on sale for up to 75% off. Some may say that their hoping for a better profit, but I’m choosing to believe that they’re hoping that some of us men are daring enough to keep the “Valentine spirit” past February 14. Unfortunately, way too many men won’t.
To those of us who look past February 14 and want woo our wives 365 days of the year, I say… just keep up the good work! Don’t limit your gift giving to birthdays and holidays. Don’t fear “spoiling” your wife. She deserves it.
So how are you doing at keeping up the good work? Here’s three things to remember when “wooing your wife”:
Keep speaking her love language!
Most of us know that we each have our very own language in which we speak and hear (feel) love. If you don’t know your spouses love language be sure to check out Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages.
Although it’s always great to try new things out and surprise your wife, be sure you’re still speaking HER love language. If you don’t, you can spend a lot of time trying to tell her you love her only to have it fly right past.
Keep meeting her emotional needs!
We’ve heard it said time and time again that “love is a choice”, but what choice do you need to make. Maybe you’re going to need to forgive. Maybe you’re going to need to become more assertive. Whatever your choice is make sure you’re focusing on meeting her emotional needs. Marriages become stale when we focus on our needs and not the needs of our spouse. You’re wife has certain emotional needs. She needs you to connect with her there. (BTW- Wives, husbands have these needs too – they just try not to talk about them) All the wooing in the world will go nowhere if you’re not meeting their emotional needs.
Keep doing the right thing!
Love is splendid thing! Too many times we just get too busy. We allow the craziness of life to take over. We allow our good intentions to be hijacked by…life. Guys, don’t allow it. Keep up the good work. Write notes. Keep your date nights going. Take vacation days. Choose your wife over something else. Keep doing the RIGHT things.