Framing gives our homes their unique shape. When Aime and I moved back to Ohio, we looked at a ton of houses. One house didn’t have enough rooms, one house had enough rooms…they were just too small. One house was weird shaped and finally we found OUR home. It was just … US. It just fit us.
So let’s ask the question: What makes our family different?
A few years ago, Aime and I sat down and had a great talk about just that. You see, although we both loved the homes we grew up in and loved our childhood, there were several things we determined we wanted to do differently. We call these our Family Values. We started to ask questions like what do we want these kids to look like in 18 years? What’s our goal? What kinds of memories do we want these kids to have about their childhood. We decided to place the end goal out there and really shoot for it. Stephen Covey calls it “keeping the end in mind”.
Let me tell you another thing that happens in the framing of your home. You’re framing defines what you can and can’t do in your home. Aime and I have actually worked with a couple builders on homes. During the building stage, Aime and I are the types of people that are there every night checking and double checking the profess to be sure that there isn’t a wall in the middle of the living room or anything weird like that. Your framing set’s boundaries.
Philippians 4:8 says this: Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.
My buddy Craig Jutila describes values like this:
When we take our kids to the bowling alley we put the bumpers up. These bumpers don’t guarantee a strike every time, but they do make sure the ball is traveling the right direction. The chances of hitting down more pins is increased greatly.
Our Values do the same thing. They’re not going to GUARANTEE success, but they are going to keep us heading in the right direction… and increasing the odds.
Ok, so here’s the application
I am amazed at how many couples (singles as well) have NEVER sat down and genuinely discussed “The End”.
How about you? Do you have a plan or are you just winging it?