The roof keeps everything below protected. Just as a bad foundation can cause the whole thing to collapse, a home without a roof won’t stand very long either.
So how do we protect what we have?
This is where we put our boundaries into action.
“For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it?
See here’s the thing. A healthy family does more than just talk about values… they live them out every day. Too many parents claim to value things only to leave them here at the door as they walk out of the home. Here are 3 thing you can do to Protect your family:
Know your children
Each of our kids are unique. They need to be raised uniquely. Not only that, but they also have certain needs. They will respond to you as their parent differently depending on what stage of life they’re in. Each of our children are on a journey. We call it a Journey to Independence.
This is a journey that is good. It’s natural. It’s a great accomplishment. We all started this journey at a very young age age and we journeyed through so many crucial life stages. Early childhood, Elementary School years, Middle school, High School, and on into Adulthood. At each of these stages your child changes. They mature. They grow. Physically, cognitively, they change in how they respond to us. How they listen to us… or stop listening to us.
So here’s the journey we’re on as dad’s and mom’s. We’re journeying through phases of parenting. During each of these parenting phases we’re discovering that we’re having to shift how we parent, how we communicate with our children. Here’s what I mean by that: the way in which we just communicated, our “voice” with our children all of a sudden… doesn’t work any more. Here are the basic voices.
Early childhood – Protector
Elementary – Teacher
Middle School – Model
High School – Coach
Adulthood – Mentor
Know your child… Speak their language.
Widen the circle with positive outside influences
Ephesians 6 talks about having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; and taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.
We build a strong shield of faith on the true stories of God’s word lived out in one person and passed on to another. Our kids need multiple voices in their life saying the same thing.
I read an interesting survey brought out by the Barna Research group in 2010. It stated the only about 20% or parents were actually looking for more input from other parents or mentors. The majority of parents were satisfied with the number of people speaking into their life. The study went on to conclude that like most Americans, parents prefer to make it their own way despite the occasional conversation of needing more help an more resources. If this is where you are as a family, if you have plenty of people speaking into your life and family, that’s great! I only want to raise the awareness of who those voices are and how well your current support system’s working? Do your kids have these other voices? In most places, this is your youth leaders and children’s workers. All vital voices in the lives of our kids today!
Keep redirecting back to the foundation.
Remember, this is all about discipleship. Discipline and disciple come from the same root. Discipline is all about bringing our kids back to the foundation. I’m not talking about “beating the word of God into them,” But I am taking about putting our actions, both good and bad, in context to the foundation of God’s word.
I have a few bad habits, but one in particular drives my wife crazy. I start way too many project. I have a couple guitars I don’t play a whole lot. I have drawers of paints and brushes they are all dried out. I own a cello that I haven’t touched in years. I get a good idea and I go with it… for a while. I have great intentions, I just don’t follow through very well. Many of us are like that with our families. We promise ourselves devotions every night and reading through the Bible in a year, but we end up discouraged. It takes follow-through. We have to take actions with us as we walk out the door each day.